Discussion about this post

User's avatar
shannon stoney's avatar

I think you're right about the "nihilism and despair" among rural people. I live in the rural South, and I have noticed a real decline in general morale, and especially social trust, in the last forty years. Most of it has happened in the last 20 years or so. Twenty years ago, my neighborhood was full of people who just dropped in on each other unannounced and sat around in kitchens talking. Now I am almost never invited into other people's houses. People are superficially friendly, but I don't know their whole life story as I did with the neighbors 20 years ago. (Most of those people have died or moved, and have been replaced by younger families.)

This is not to say that those old neighbors were "good." Some of them were very bad: the men drove drunk and harassed women and bullied their wives. The new, younger families don't do those things, and that is huge progress. But they are very paranoid: a few weeks ago, I parked my car down by the creek and within an hour, there were texts flying around the neighborhood about the strange car. (They had apparently forgotten that I got a new car a year ago!) They sent one of the husbands to investigate, with a gun! Fortunately nobody got shot.

They seem to worry especially about pedophiles: they don't really like for me to talk to their kids. I'm a seventy-year old white woman, hardly the typical sexual predator. But who knows? Their kids are barely allowed to stray beyond their driveways, even though there is no traffic and almost nobody here that we don't know. Even playing at another child's house has to be negotiated carefully.

About religion: only a few people go to church regularly, and they go to an evangelical church.

The "nihilism and despair" here seem particularly intense for old people, who are indeed pretty lonely I think, even if married. It affects both liberals and conservative retired people. Retired people seem to spend a great deal of time on the internet, becoming more nihilistic. They send me crazy memes about why Ukrainians are really Nazis, etc. They become extremely angry if you mildly disagree. I much prefer to hang out with younger people these days: at least they have kids to focus on, instead of their loneliness and despair.

My solution is to consume news in very small quantities, meditate twice a day, and have a lot of projects and outings with friends, even the grumpy ones.

Expand full comment
Patricia Munro's avatar

I don't know how to comment on the Forward article, so I am doing it here. I live in the Bay Area and hang out in Berkeley from time to time. In the spirit of both/and, there is both substantially more antisemitism than I have ever seen and, yes, it is more virulent, gleeful, and hateful. I've been in the room with it, so yeah, it's there and it's real--what Foer and Horn write is not wrong.

AND, this spate of antisemitism isn't necessarily a "the sky is falling" moment. There is a lot of push-back and organizing from the Jewish community and allies. I am offered support from people I know. I wear a kippah--and part of the reason is to gauge reaction to "out" Jews. Never been harassed. And the past March primary saw some of the worst offenders primaried or just gone (depending on the race).

I am concerned with how antisemitic tropes that go back a very long time are being used to isolate Israel and justify the demonization, delegitimization, and double standard antisemitism of the present. There are two conversations and they are regularly conflated.

One is about the reality of the region, Israel's actions, its government, and the reality of how to fight this war--whatever that means.

The second is how the rest of the world responds to Israel's actions.

The WCK tragedy is an example. There is every reason to grieve for the people who died and for the damage done to the best NGO ever. The IDF screwed up royally, as the IDF's report said. Yes, Israel took responsibility. Yes, it was an accident. And yes, the policies and IDF culture that allowed for this to happen need to change.

Yet that grief and anger is also being used to generally demonize Israel. Again, both/and: it is possible for Israel to be very wrong AND for those actions to be used in antisemitic ways. Holding and talking about those two realities is pretty near impossible. Which makes all of this so much harder. Take the reality that, whatever the real numbers, too many innocent people have died and too many people are hungry or homeless. That is real. Hamas engineered the situation, but Israel's response--necessary or not (and I refuse to comment on a field I know nothing about)--was the direct cause of that suffering. That is real; so is the impossibility of the choices.

Expand full comment
2 more comments...

No posts