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shannon stoney's avatar

I just went to a graduation for college students. These are the students whose college careers began in the fall of 2020. At this particular East coast elite school, the students had to do their first semester from home. During the second semester, some of them lived on campus, but alone in single rooms, having meals delivered, wearing masks whenever they left their rooms. It was very hard for my niece who had been so excited about going to college.

Four years later, she graduated with honors and won two prizes for her thesis. Her friends have similar success stories, and they all have exciting things to do after graduation.

Their resilience is impressive, but at this college, there were several suicides in the past year. This is very unusual for that campus, and there was a lot of discussion during graduation events about the mental health crisis that affects young people disproportionately, because of the way in which their social lives and schooling were interrupted.

During the graduation ceremonies and speeches, the pandemic was mentioned repeatedly as a formative event in the lives of these graduates. There was no denial. But this is a liberal college that took vaccination and masking seriously. In my rural TN county, people seem to have mostly "forgotten" about it. During the pandemic, a lot of people here would not wear masks and would not get vaccinated, especially younger people. (The vast majority of seniors got at least one shot, despite the fact that the vast majority of seniors are also Trump voters; they seemed to understand that he was lying about that particular thing.) As a result we had a pretty high mortality rate as a county: 0.4% of the population died. This may not sound like a lot of people, but in a small community, most people knew somebody who died. I do. I also know people who have long covid.

Still, despite the reality of our experience here, I am not sure how I could initiate a conversation about Covid, and Trump's poor handling of it, without reviving the reflexive partisanship that divided people four years ago. I think some people privately think to themselves that Trump was actually wrong, and that the virus was real, and that it was probably a good idea to get vaccinated. But talking about that out loud seems to be taboo. It creates more arguments, and more arguments are divisive. It seems to be very difficult for people to say, "I was wrong."

Also I had several liberal friends who refused to get vaccinated. One was drinking Ivermectin. I stopped hanging out with her four years ago. I have considered trying to reconnect with her, but her anti-social behavior during Covid changed my opinion of her character. I am guessing that she will vote for RFK Jr.

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Martha Greenwald's avatar

Thank you for this piece. My own work as the creator/founder of WhoWeLost.org addresses many of the issues you've raised. CNN did a story about The WhoWeLost Project just a few weeks ago. We are a judgment and comment-free safe space for grievers to address pandemic loss. Also, I've written several OpEds on this topic. Here's a few links. I would love to discuss this with you further:

https://www.cnn.com/2024/05/18/us/covid-victims-death-memorial-website/index.html

https://thehill.com/opinion/healthcare/4576656-are-you-better-off-today-than-four-years-ago-is-the-wrong-question/

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